Every group organizes itself around agreements, requirements, intentions, expectations, taboos, laws or rules that group members adhere to in order to join or remain in the group. It’s what allows it to function as a group. The problem is, most of these agreements and rules are hidden, pre-imposed or closed to any meaningful discussion about them. As a result, group members don’t have a way to look at why they are in that particular group, what they want from being in it or how they would prefer to the group to function.
There are all kinds of entirely different assumptions and conflicting desires going on underneath the surface of almost every family, business, circle of friends, school and social organization today. In sitting in these thousands of circles, I’ve discovered that if a group creates room for members to make intentional agreements with one another around purpose and process, then the dynamics of that group radically changes the moment those clear agreements are in place. Everything changes.
As importantly, I’ve also discovered that there are certain elemental agreements that all groups can make with one another in order to maximize the creativity and connection between the members within the group. When these specific agreements are in place, group members automatically begin
to feel like it is their group: their family, business or school. They take
ownership of it. These agreements also allow people to show up as they are
rather than as they are expected to be. People can relax, speak openly and
be direct and real with one another. Differences are honored and encouraged
rather than feared or suppressed. Third party talk, gossip, backbiting, power
playing and harmful inter-group rivalry are replaced with a very different
kind of co-creative environment.
More than anything else, these basic agreements encourage people to
connect with one another before taking action so that the actions taken are in
harmony with everyone’s aligned intent.
This is just a taste of what these New Circle Dynamics address. Interested?
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yourself what a radical difference they make within the dynamics of any