To Want or Not To Want: Is That The Question?
At the very center of The Heart Circle Model is being heart-directed. This is not necessarily about being kind or loving, as important as that is, but instead about being guided by what our heart wants next. We’re invited to find out what we truly want rather than follow our conditioned wants. This brings up the age-old debate:
To Want Or Not To Want: Is That the Question?
I wrote the following piece several years ago in answer to this question. I love the simplicity of it and want to share it with you:
“The term wanting is rather loaded when used in a spiritual context. For example, in The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle says that to find meaning in life we have to stop wanting. Alternatively, the Abraham-Hicks teachings say that meaning in life begins when we start wanting. Over centuries of spiritual tradition this contradictory term has led to a vast amount of confusion and suffering.
From my own experience, Tolle and Abraham-Hicks are saying exactly the same thing but using the word wanting very differently.
Eckhart Tolle states that living outside the present moment is a result of our having mental and emotional bodies that are vastly over stimulated. We are constantly wanting something other than what we already have in the present moment because we can't feel what we have: we are thinking too much or we haven’t yet found the way out of our emotional pain bodies into the Now.
Tolle is talking about wanting from a reference point of being outside of the present moment. From this place, our desires and wants stem from our mental or emotional confusion. Focusing on feeling the magic of the moment, quieting our minds and not acting on our conditioned desires leads to awakening and peace.
Abraham-Hicks is using the term wanting from a different reference point. Their wanting is not about the desires that come from being in the pain body but from the desires that come from being in the heart. Thus, their reference point for wanting is also being in the present moment. They are referring to the passion and creativity of Love itself. And more than anything else, they are using the term wanting to identify that in any moment we can choose one thing over another. Given that we are continually choosing everything in life, they encourage us to choose what feels good; what leads to joy or right alignment; what brings us out of our pain bodies and into the present moment.
Hence, being present in the moment of Now and heart-wanting are not oppositional to each other."
So ... in this moment, the question is: what do you want?